February 7, 2024:
Right now, language is exploding on TikTok. It is kind of beautiful until you understand why. With every scroll, new terms compete for space in your brain: âorange peel theory,â âmicrocheating,â âgirl hobby,â âloud budgeting,â â75 cozy.â They are funneled into the collective consciousness not because they are relevant or necessary but because random people have made videos inventing these terms in the hope that the wording will go viral. The other day, I saw one where a guy was like, âDoes anyone else just love a âdinner and couchâ friend? Like, you just have dinner and then you sit on the couch?â The video currently has more than 100,000 likes and 600 comments. He then repeats the term as if to drill into the audience that this is a phenomenon that deserves its own designation: âdinner and couch friend.â Fascinating!
There is a case to be made that the constant stream of phrases vying to become widely used slang exemplifies a deep appreciation for language among the extremely online, or a desire to connect over the intricacies of the human experience. Perhaps you, too, can relate to the concept of âpolyworkâ (that is, working multiple jobs) or having been raised by a diet-obsessive âalmond mom.â Maybe this guyâs video coining the term âweekend effectâ to describe the feeling of wasting your Saturdays and Sundays really speaks to you; maybe âfirst time cool syndromeâ is something youâve personally overcome.
But chances are, you have either never heard of any of these terms or you have heard of so many that you are starting to become a little bit fatigued by them. It is not novel to note that TikTok has sped up the trend cycle, creating incentives for users to remix or react to the latest viral video and forget about it once itâs no longer a reliable source of views. What this has wrought is a graveyard of microtrends and niche aesthetics for people to try on, care about only to the extent that they generate attention, and then discard for the next thing (who even talks about âe-girlsâ or âgoblin modeâ anymore?). And over the past few years, TikTokers have clamored to coin the next new trend.
It has become such a frequent occurrence that some TikTokers have even made parody videos about the thirstiness of aspiring term-coiners. âThis is my impression of a TikTok influencer who comes on here and starts to explain an experience or a feeling or a kind of person that is literally definable in the dictionary,â says Brenna Connolly in a video posted last September, âlike they are the first person to ever encounter or feel something like this and they speak about it in a crazy authoritative, educational tone.â Connolly, a 20-year-old student in New York, says her video was inspired by a different viral video where a woman laments a phenomenon she coined the ââwhat about meâ effectâ to describe when people on TikTok comment on a video and âfind a way to make it about them.â âIâm sure sheâs great and kind, but there are ways you can describe this by just speaking a sentence. We donât really have to label it something silly,â she tells me. She guesses the onslaught of made-up TikTok terms sheâs noticed over the past year or so is from peoplesâ collective search for identity; the way weâve tried to seek it out is by labeling and pigeonholing every possible part of the human experience.
In her newsletter on Gen Z consumer trends, After School, Casey Lewis leads each issue with a subject line devoted to two of these viral terms. That there are enough of them to populate an email subject line every single day says plenty about the pace at which theyâre fired off; some recent examples include âDoomscrolling and Daylists,â âWork Island and Generation Zyn,â âStanley Moms and Sephora Tweens,â and, a personal favorite, âEarnestcore and Resolutionsmaxxing.â
âGen Z are nothing if not marketing geniuses,â she says of TikTokersâ ability to push out viral phrases. Having covered youth culture and marketing trends since 2008, Lewis is struck most by the shift from where these terms and phrases used to originate versus where they do now. âWhen we were kids growing up, magazine editors and fashion designers were determining trends, but now editors are literally just reporting on what people on TikTok are doing.â
Unlike slang, which generally spreads organically within particular groups and is then co-opted (and often appropriated) by the masses, these kinds of catchy phrases or new terms have historically been disseminated top-down â that is, from cultural products like books or film. Shakespeare, for instance, coined an arguable 1,700 terms, while âgaslight,â âfriendzone,â and âcatfishâ all stem from professional screenwriters. Thatâs not to say this doesnât still happen: In 2016, The Cut coined the term âmillennial pink,â though if such a phrase were to come about today, itâd be surprising if it didnât come from a TikToker.
And unlike slang, these phrases are invented for a more cynical purpose: that other people might use them. When the then-16-year-old Kayla Newman posted a Vine admiring her eyebrows, she wasnât intending for the phrase âon fleekâ to become a contender for 2015âs âword of the year.â But it did, and she never made a dime off of it (she later crowdfunded a campaign to launch a hair extensions line; the website currently appears to be down). âI gave the world a word,â Newman told The Fader at the time. âI canât explain the feeling. At the moment I havenât gotten any endorsements or received any payment. I feel that I should be compensated. But I also feel that good things happen to those who wait.â
TikTokers, knowledgeable in the ways that social platforms profit from minority cultures, most notably Black femmes, have also learned from previous generationsâ inability to profit from their contributions to the culture. They know itâs highly improbable that theyâll make a fortune from naming the next new trend (you canât trademark slang, after all), and few term-coiners profit meaningfully beyond â if theyâre lucky â a brand sponsorship deal or two. Instead, theyâre after authority and clout. They are, to borrow from Mean Girls, âtrying to make âfetchâ happenâ just to say they made âfetchâ happen.
âI understand why people would want to come up with something thatâs used all over the internet,â says Connolly. âI think about the girl who came up with âgirl dinner,â and how awesome it must feel to see everyone saying it all the time. Itâs like starting an inside joke with your friends and your entire circle continuing to use it.â But it is also sort of thirsty behavior, and Lewis predicts TikTokâs biggest user base is starting to see through it. âI do think thereâs going to be a backlash this year against content that is created like, obviously, just in the hopes of going viral,â she says.
Of course, TikTokers arenât the only ones trying to make their various fetches happen. Judging by the sheer volume of coverage on phrases like âbeige flag,â âquiet quitting,â or âmob wife aesthetic,â journalists on the culture beat are essentially captive to whatever happens to be trending online in the hopes they might capitalize on its existing virality. So, what the hell, I might as well join in: Iâm calling the rash of tryhard slang online âtrendbait,â and if you make a TikTok about it, please be sure to tag me.
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